Nobody.
Some of us may have a birthmark in an obvious place. (I know I did, I had it removed lol) Some of us may tend to be too needy. Some of us may nag or become too unkind when the pressure of our daily lives starts to close in on us.
Some of us may have habits that annoy some and are cute to others.
Some of us may be overweight. Some of us may be too short. Some may be too flat chested. Some of us may have body parts that don't quite look right.
We all have flaws; be it physical or in our personalities. Nobody is perfect. We are human.
I am not a girl who like cliches.
One cliche that bothers me is Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder. I get it. I get the point of this saying.
But it still bothers me.
The most insecure people I have ever met are the most attractive people. Why is that? If they are already seen as beautiful by most, then why are they the ones constantly seeking positive reinforcement?
It's because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But for true beauty to exist, the eye of the beholder must be our own eyes.
In other words, if we don't find ourselves attractive, if we aren't comfortable with who we are, if we don't love ourselves; nobody else will or if they do, it won't be for long.
I sit here late at night with my thoughts and ask myself questions. Questions like... why am I 29 and not married. Or why have my past relationships not worked out?
For years, I wrestled with these thoughts.
The answer does not deserve as much reflection as I give it.
The answer is simple.
Accept myself.
I am flawed.
Whoever decides to love me is flawed.
Work on those flaws but don't let those flaws dictate my actions and words.
Don't try to change someone else.
And finally, be kind to myself.
Who is more critical of ourselves more than us?
Nobody.
And that is a shame.
Beyonce has this song out Called Flaws and All. Its so beautiful, I love it.
I don't know why you love me
And that's why I love you
You catch me when I fall
Accept me, flaws and all
And that's why I love you- Beyonce, Flaws and All
That is what I think of when I think of Peter. He loves me flaws and all. The last guy I tried to date, was a decent guy. But he told me that I had all the qualities of a person he would like to marry however he only had dated petite girls and he thought he would have a problem with me being the way i am. He make me question myself, but above all I know this is who I was. And no matter what if I changed it would have to be for myself, if i changed for him I would only hold it against him later. Ultimately I knew that I would never be what he wanted, and being what he wanted would never make me happy.
Then I met Peter. Never once have I ever had to try and be something that I am not with him. I don't have to try and act smarter than I am (cause he knows I saw some extremely dumb things, A LOT!) I don't have a dress a certain way or say or do a certain thing. Peter loves me just the way I am, and he doesn't hesitate to let me know this each and every single day. I don't know why he loves me, and I may never understand, but he loves me flaws and all.
Beyonce - Flaws And All Live (Official Music Video) - Funny videos are here
And that's why I love you
You catch me when I fall
Accept me, flaws and all
And that's why I love you- Beyonce, Flaws and All
That is what I think of when I think of Peter. He loves me flaws and all. The last guy I tried to date, was a decent guy. But he told me that I had all the qualities of a person he would like to marry however he only had dated petite girls and he thought he would have a problem with me being the way i am. He make me question myself, but above all I know this is who I was. And no matter what if I changed it would have to be for myself, if i changed for him I would only hold it against him later. Ultimately I knew that I would never be what he wanted, and being what he wanted would never make me happy.
Then I met Peter. Never once have I ever had to try and be something that I am not with him. I don't have to try and act smarter than I am (cause he knows I saw some extremely dumb things, A LOT!) I don't have a dress a certain way or say or do a certain thing. Peter loves me just the way I am, and he doesn't hesitate to let me know this each and every single day. I don't know why he loves me, and I may never understand, but he loves me flaws and all.
Beyonce - Flaws And All Live (Official Music Video) - Funny videos are here
3 comments:
Its such a hard thing to love ourselves sometimes but I think that if we can find a way to do it it will only strengthen the love we receive from others. I love your blogs and I love your insight.. thank you for being someone I look up to and love!
Good song, I hadn't heard it yet. Good post too! ;)
I don't know the guy you dated before, but what a jerk (not to mention shallow) You are beautiful Rachel. I'm glad you found someone like Peter that sees that and obviously appreciates it. :)
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